Stephen Akintayo


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A lady recovering from failure

Have you experienced failure before? The truth is that failure is a bitter experience. 

In today’s decade, oftentimes success stories are often celebrated and publicised-it’s almost seems like failure is unreal.

According to  J.K. Rowling

“Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” 

If success is your mark then you need to be prepared for failure. Emotions of failure can affect one’s entire disposition when not managed properly.


This 5 key steps will explain how to deal with failure in life

Managing Your Emotions

Occasionally, most people tend to bury their feelings of failure. You cannot learn from a   failed experience that you never acknowledged.

Practise task

  • Get a sheet of paper and describe how you felt about that failed experience
  • Anytime you feel burdened, write your emotions on paper until you feel better.

Read: Survival Instinct


The importance of having a mentor cannot be overstressed. Talking to someone can help you feel lighter.

Expressing yourself to someone who has experienced failure and bounced back is a great external motivator for you to move on.

If you do not know how to get a mentor, no need to worry. 

Read: How  To Find A Mentor

Negative Thoughts

It is very possible not to learn from failure when your thoughts are negative. 

Practise positive reframing. It’s all about finding a silver lining in an impossible situation.

Positive reframing involves examining why you failed and using that information to try again.

A good way to manage your emotions is through sublimation. Sublimation simply means channelling your emotions into healthy alternatives like sports.

Moving Forward: Lessons learnt

The worse mistake you can make with failure is not to heed its lessons.

The reason why most people find themselves repeating the same failed experiences is that they did not learn.

Don’t do yourself a disservice. If you can’t objectively see the lessons then ask a trusted colleague for their opinion on the experience; you just might be surprised!

Read: Turning Your Mess To Your Message


So, you failed? What next? It’s not enough to get over failure, it is of utmost importance that your actions propel you to success.

After, reviewing the lessons of failure you must learn and adjust accordingly.

We believe that you can bounce back from failure!

Kindly share other tips with other readers in the comment session below.

  • A mentor empowers a person to see a possible future, and believe it can be obtained.” Thank you Mr Stephen Akintayo, you are indeed a blessing.

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